7 Things About My Body That I Have Realised Are Perfectly Fucking Fine

A catalogue of things about my body I have done battle with over the years that, you know what? Are perfectly fucking fine

1: Oily Skin

Everyone but everyone has different skin types. They each come with their own set of gripes and issues and doing battle with your skin and wishing it were different is quite frankly a fools game.  Instead, you need to learn to understand your skin and work with it to keep it healthy.

For me, oily type skin means I’m less likely to wrinkle prematurely but my pores are quite  visible and I’m more prone to blemishes and blackheads (though for an oily type I’m not doing too bad in that since puberty passed). Double cleansing at night is advisable for me and so too is a gentle exfoliation on a semi daily basis – more often than a dry type. Oils are unnecessary and not really recommended in my case.  Currently, I’m finding my make up is going shiny and greasy looking pretty quickly despite setting sprays and powders so now I’m looking to change my primer and foundation to a specificly matt product. So long trusty Clinique CC cream!! We had a good run!

Whatever your skin type, get to know it. Become familiar with it and then become friends with it. Work with it, not against it, towards keeping it and your relationship with  it healthy.

Its about working with what you got. And whatever you got, it’s all PERFECTLY FUCKING FINE

(FYI an SPF is essential for every skin type. It’s down to you the individual to figure out which one)

 

2: Stretch Marks

I believe the official statistic for people with stretch marks is a whopping 80% . That’s PEOPLE by the way, not “women”. Men get them too. I know, I’ve seen it. Though admittedly they are more prevalent in women due a variety of factors-liken pregnancy- that are, you know what? PERFECTLY FUCKING FINE

Im not going to lie, I’m hung up on mine. But not for their mere presence so much as -in my  case- the quantity of them. After having had 2 children from my waist down to the backs of my knees, I honestly fell like if they dispersed any further I’d be a single “giant walking talking stretch mark”

But somewhere in the recess of my mind I know that this too is perfectly fine. Some of us have more and some of us have less and much of it is largely down to genetics and hormones -in other words, shit that’s well beyond our control.  The best thing to do is simply to keep your skin as healthy as possible and not fret over the perfectly normal (80% PEOPLE!!!) or shit that’s beyond our control. I’m tryin’!

3: Low Sitting Breasts 

Especially after having given birth and breastfed for an age, for the longest time I was massively self conscious over this. I wouldn’t take my bra off hardly ever. Not even for…you know…

I think somewhere in the back of my mind I thought -ridiculously-that it was some kind of failing on my part.

That is until one day I attended a kind of bra fitting workshop -much more thorough and in depth than your local M and S – at local House of Colour fairy Godmothers place. She’d asked an external bra ‘n’ breasts expert to come in for an event day and being, like a great many women, sick to death of the bra shopping struggle I went along to have a consultation.

I’d done a couple of House of Colour workshops and Bra Lady (whose name and business name I cannot recall for the life of annoyingly) had worked closely with Fairy Godmother for some time and was familiar with the terminology ect

”What body type did you end up being?” She asked, whilst tugging on a sample bra to get it to sit right.

“Ingenue”

”Ahaha I thought so! Breast tend to sit a little bit lower on ingenue types. It’s not a bad thing and it’s not your bits sagging prematurely. It’s just your body type”

(I had been embarrassedly bemoaning this fact throughout our consultation you see)

Reader, how often have a I stressed how terribly important validation is?!? OMG

To have an actual expert tell me that it was just my body type and it was PERFECTLY FINE was bloody life changing. A switch went click in my brain. There’s nothing wrong! It’s just me!! Hooray!!

I still insist on wearing a bra for everything, and I insist on having an underwire,  but  that’s for my own comfort more than anything

Breasts come in a hundred different wonderful ways. And however low they sit or direction they point they are each and every one of them PERFECTLY FUCKING FINE!!!

4: Cellulite 

I used to try and battle it, now I don’t really give a fuck. I don’t really see it much so it’s kind of out of sight out of mind but similarly to stretch marks it affects 90% of women (10% men). Do you know what this tells me folks? Cellulite is normal-like fingernails- and PERFECTLY FUCKING FINE. Don’t sweat over it.

5: Poker Straight Hair 

I used to long for bouncy lustrous waves. I felt my Mona Lisa level poker straight curtain dragged down my face.  Hair, like skin and breasts, comes in vast variety of ways and all of them are PERFECTLY FUCKING FINE.

Dont get me wrong, I like to have it styled for fun and variety and things. For shaking things up when I feel a bit bored. As with skin, the key to hair is familiarising yourself  and educating yourself on it. Learn what it needs to be healthy and comfortable and work with for the greater good

Aside from the tedium of overly active sebaceous glands which means I need to wash it all the bloody time, My naturally straight AF hair is perfectly fucking fine and I like it just the way it is.

6: Hip Dip

Used to baffle me before that hashtag trend a couple of years ago, when it was given a label. The trend was quite toxic in a way but on the other hand gave me a name for this distinctive feature of mine and showed me that it’s Im not the only one and it’s PERFECTLY FUCKING FINE

I don’t give a shit about it now

7: Wide Hips  

When I developed an eating disorder in my early teens is used to look at my hips and despair. They were “disproportionately” wider than the rest of me and now amount of starvation was getting them to go down. Do you know why?? Because it was bone, not fat or flesh.

Wide hips are apart of my structure. The only way those babies are going down is if you take a sander to the bone and file ‘em.

They are me and ain’t nothing going to change that anytime soon

And I wouldn’t want them too

I have wide hips. I am “bottom heavy”.  It’s me and I not only accept it but Hell, I even appreciate it sometimes

I dress in a way that accommodates them -and all my curves and shapes- because it pleases me.

Wide hips are PERFECTLY FUCKING FINE. Narrow hips are PERFECTLY FUCKING FINE.

We are all structured differently. As humans, we come in a vast and exciting range of builds, heights, colours, shapes, lines , curves, textures, symmetries and distinctions. The vast majority of which is entirely and completely normal and so touchingly human

But most of all,  it is all just PERFECTLY FUCKING FINE

 

Much Love 

Kirsty

 

 

  1. Jasir on 11 March 2019 at 4:22 pm

    Sooo true. Though I’m not a woman, I wholeheartedly understand because my wife has similar concerns lolol



  2. Laura on 11 March 2019 at 6:28 pm

    I love this body positivity post. I’m not quite there yet but reading this has certainly got me thinking. I love your attitude xx



    • Kirsty on 11 March 2019 at 7:25 pm

      I’m not 100% walking the walk to my talk yet either, not fully. There’s many aspects of my body I’m still not at peace with, despite knowing that logically it’s all good. It’s like that meme, “even though I’m educated on how the media distorts our image of beauty, I still feel the urge to conform to an impossible body type” xx



  3. Claire on 11 March 2019 at 9:39 pm

    Yep right there preaching this but 100% not following my own advice!! Great post



  4. Kirsty on 12 March 2019 at 7:04 am

    It’s hard isn’t it? Because we do really believe in it but getting over deeply ingrained insecurities takes a whole lotta work x

    From the above the stretch marks and low breasts thing catch me out sometimes. Especially the former because, as I wrote, there’s so very many of them!

    Thanks so much for reading and commenting 🤗



  5. The Tinker Bug on 12 March 2019 at 2:34 pm

    Fantastic post!! Oily skin? Check. Stretch marks? Check. Cellulite? Check. Low sitting boobs? Double check!

    It’s so hard to feel comfortable in your own skin these days! This is definitely something I and a lot of others should start trying to do. Great post!



  6. Raheela James on 13 March 2019 at 1:37 am

    Love this post. All the jiggly wiggly parts are because I gave birth to 4 healthy babies. Sure I’d like to lose some weight but only because it will help me not be so out of breath all the time 😀. Otherwise my curves are pretty cool. Thank you for this post Raheela



  7. Margarida Vasconcelos on 13 March 2019 at 6:09 pm

    That’s great! Well done you! I struggle to accept my body as it is.



    • Kirsty on 13 March 2019 at 7:08 pm

      I still struggle with a great many things relating to my body’s aesthetic xx it’s hard isn’t it x



  8. Savannah on 13 March 2019 at 11:25 pm

    Thank you for this! As someone that struggles with body image, this is so important. Thank you so much.



  9. Anaïs on 14 March 2019 at 8:55 am

    Yayyy to that positive and inspiring post!!
    I think we should all stop being focused on our “flaws” and start considering them as beauty xx

    Anaïs | http://anais-n.com



  10. Sarah Winton on 15 March 2019 at 5:32 pm

    Sing it sister! I loved reading this post!! Yay for cellulite and oily skin and hip dips!



  11. Rachel | The secret life of Real Estate Mommy on 15 March 2019 at 10:51 pm

    AMEN!! After having carried 5 babies, one that is now my angel baby, I have actually come to be proud of my stretch marks. It sounds funny, but I have a very deep stretch mark on my hip, I know it is from my baby in heaven {Hazel}. I never officially met her, and I love my stretch mark she left me with. It is one of the few tangible marks she left on this Earth and I am reminded she was truly here every time I see it. I never thought the day would come, but I am thankful for that stretch mark. I needed that mark on my body to I could truly grieve her and no matter the fact you can see it in my swimsuit, I need it to be there always quite honestly. Thank you for sharing!



    • Kirsty on 16 March 2019 at 9:15 am

      I am deeply touched that you chose to share your story here, thank you 💗

      I’m so sorry for your loss xxx

      It doesn’t sound funny at all to me, I think it makes perfect sense and is entirely understandable.

      Thanks so much for sharing such a poignant story xxx